18 Effective Responses to Prying Engagement Questions

By Camryn Rabideau

If you're in a relationship, you're probably familiar with intrusive engagement questions such as, "When are you two getting married?" Sometimes the prying questions might come from family members. Other times, they might come from friends, coworkers, or other acquaintances. Either way, the constant inquiries will become annoying, especially after you've heard the same question a dozen times.

If you're tired of fending off engagement questions, you'll appreciate this list of 18 effective responses to questions such as, "When are you getting engaged?" From sassy retorts to polite dismissals, there's sure to be a comeback here that works for you:

  1. If your boyfriend isn't around, simply say, "I don't know. Why don't you ask him?"
  2. Avoid the issue with a quip such as, "I'm still holding out for [celebrity crush]!"
  3. No one can deny weddings are expensive, so you can say, "Not anytime soon—unless we win the lottery!"
  4. Keep it polite and say, "That's between the two of us. We'll take that next step when we both agree we're ready."
  5. Blame the band, saying, "We're waiting for [favorite band] to be obsolete so we can afford to have them perform at the wedding."
  6. There's always sarcasm: "Next week. Didn't you get your invitation?"
  7. If someone has asked multiple times, you can give a sassy response such as, "We'll get engaged when you stop asking."
  8. Talk about what you're focusing on instead. You can steer the conversation to a new topic by saying, "We're more focused on our upcoming trip to [wherever]."
  9. Just be straightforward: "I don't know, and that's OK. I'm happy with the way our relationship is right now."
  10. A Game of Thrones fan will appreciate this one: "Not until Daenerys sits on the Iron Throne."
  11. Turn it back on her with, "Are you proposing?! This is so sudden!"
  12. Let him know you'll tell him when it's time: "When we do, you'll be the first to know."
  13. Point out the obvious: "Isn't the point of a proposal that it's a surprise?"
  14. If she has a good sense of humor, you can say, "Oh, he asked already. I said no."
  15. Don't be afraid to blame your age: "What?! I'm only [age]—that's way too young to get married."
  16. Prove you're in it for more than the perks: "We both have health insurance, so there's no rush."
  17. Another polite response is to ask, "I'm not sure. When did you get engaged?"
  18. Politely end the conversation: "Thanks for your concern, but it's not something I'm comfortable discussing right now."

Try to remember people are just excited for you—even if their questions seem annoying or intrusive. Plus, when you do get engaged, you'll have a whole group of people ready to celebrate with you!