Spicing Up Your Anniversary: Ideas to Keep Your Post-Marriage Courtship Exciting

By Jack Busch

So, you've run out of anniversary ideas and settled into going to the same old restaurant or doing the same old date night. This could mean you have a secure, steady marriage—or, it could mean things are going a bit stale. Either way, putting a twist on your anniversary celebration can certainly spice things up.

Take the Wheel

Break out of the endless rut of, "What do you want to do? I don't know, what do you want to do?" Settling into mutual apathy is a surefire recipe for a stale anniversary. Remember, if you get excited for a big date night, she'll be excited, too.

So, instead of halfheartedly texting back and forth about which restaurant to go to, take the wheel by planning your own big date night. Whether it's dinner and dancing, a home-cooked meal and a movie on the couch, or something completely out of the ordinary, treat it like something you're looking forward to making special. She'll be flattered you still have that spark, and your enthusiasm will be infectious.

Unplug and Reboot

Whatever you do on your anniversary, make it all about the two of you. Devote the whole day, night, or weekend to your celebration. Turn off your phones and go all in on spending time together. The anxiety of being away from your push notifications and news feeds will dissipate, and soon you'll be free to start sharing in the moment right in front of you.

Are you still bored? Try pretending you're on a first date. Pretend you know nothing about each other, and get to know one another all over again. It's a chance to be playful and perhaps uncover a side of her you never knew.

Show Her Your Moves

She may think she knows all your tricks, but imagine how she'd react if you unveiled a new skill you'd been honing all year in secret. On your anniversary, show her how your private dance lessons, cooking classes, or massage training have paid off. This takes planning and dedication, but it's sure to impress.

Stop Buying Gifts Every Year

Forcing yourself to buy an anniversary gift each year can be tiresome and expensive. Instead, you can mutually agree to spend money on something else, such as a trip, date, or adventure. Unless giving personalized gifts is a talent of yours that brings both of you joy, give yourselves permission to save up for something big in the future.

The Next Piece of Jewelry

You put a lot of thought and effort into buying the perfect engagement ring and wedding band. You can pull it off again to great effect by celebrating a milestone year with some stunning anniversary diamond jewelry. Use the same detective skills you did when you were shopping for her engagement ring to buy her a piece of jewelry that will seriously wow her. Saving up for a big, meaningful gift such as a ring or necklace for your anniversary will make a bigger splash than last-minute shopping for a token gift every year.

Upping the ante with your anniversary ideas each year seems like a bit of work. However, when you're in it for the long haul, you don't have to go all in each time. Take a look at the big picture and work toward a steady buildup. Turn new pages together, surprise one another, and add new chapters to your story as you continue your journey together.