The Do's And Don'ts
Of Being A Bridesmaid
How to Be a Perfect Bridesmaid
Your best friend found the man of her dreams, got engaged, and now she's asked you to be one of her bridesmaids. While you should be very excited about being a part of the wedding, you might feel a little confused about what your duties are, or even overwhelmed by them. If you’re searching for tips on how to be the perfect bridesmaid, look no further. We've outlined the do's and don'ts of being a part of the bridal party.
- Provide emotional support. Many women look forward to their wedding for years before the big day comes. Because there is so much excitement and anticipation surrounding a woman’s wedding, it’s very normal for her to experience stress, or even cold feet, before the event. Your duty as a bridesmaid is to be a great listener and provide a shoulder to lean on.
- Plan a fabulous bridal shower. Bridesmaids are expected to help the maid of honor in planning and paying for the bridal shower. A bridal shower, typically held 3 to 6 weeks before the wedding, is intended to shower the bride with gifts she'll need in her married life.
- Give style advice. Go gown shopping with the bride or help her pick out the flowers and décor for her wedding.
- Throw a great bachelorette party. If you and your girlfriends can’t afford a day at the spa, have the spa come to you! Mobile spas, which have become increasingly popular, allow you and the other women in the bridal party to experience a day of pampering without draining your wallets.
- Be prepared for anything on the day of the wedding. As a bridesmaid, you'll definitely be busy on your friend's big day. Running last minute errands, helping the bride get dressed and ready, ushering the guests to their seats, handing out programs/confetti/other props, and making sure everyone signs the guestbook are just a few of the duties you may encounter. Be attentive to the bride’s needs.
- Refuse the bridesmaid dress your friend has selected. Most bridesmaid dresses can't be returned or exchanged, so you'll have to keep quiet if you're unhappy with the dress that the bride has purchased. If your friend hasn't purchased the bridesmaid dresses yet and you're worried about the price, find a polite way to suggest another less expensive dress. Remember that at the end of the day, the wedding is supposed to be about your friend and what she wants – not your personal style preferences.
- Complain. While being a bridesmaid is fun, it does have its less exciting aspects. Those moments range from spending more money than you hoped to on the bridal shower, to waking up painfully early on the big day to sit in a salon as nine other women get their hair done before you. Helpful suggestions are ok, whining is not.
- Expect to be anywhere close to the center of attention. You may be under the assumption that as a special part of the bridal party, you deserve some of the spotlight. Keep reminding yourself that it's all about the bride.